time management

Life Hack #1: Editing is Never a Waste of Time

I don’t like to waste time.

There.

I said it.

I don’t like to waste time.

But I’m guilty. I waste time ALL THE TIME.

That’s why when I was trapped on an airplane for nine hours this summer on my way home from Barcelona, I decided to be a productive grown-up. The in-flight entertainment system included the opportunity to dig into courses taught by world-class instructors through MasterClass.com. I don’t have a membership, but I’m a sucker for an invitation to learn something new for free. This was my chance.

With a day-long flight ahead of me and no desire to close my eyes because—AWKWARD—I scrolled through the available options and chose Malcolm Gladwell’s master class on Non-fiction Writing. Twenty-four lessons. Six hours. Master instruction from a critically-acclaimed author.

As it turns out, watching six straight hours of content wasn’t that hard. What was hard was taking notes because the rest of the passengers had shuttered the windows, the flight attendants had turned off the lights, and most everyone, including my seatmate, were trying to sleep. My hand-written notes are a little sloppy, to say the least!

Malcolm Gladwell’s Masterclass on Writing

Here’s what I learned:

Writing and life aren’t all that different. In fact, you may have even heard that writing is thinking. That’s not a new idea.

"I don't know what I think until I try to write it down."—Joan Didion

'Writing is thinking. To write well is to think clearly. That's why it's so hard.—David McCullough

"Writing is thinking on paper. Anyone who thinks clearly can write clearly, about anything at all."—William Zinsser

And a lot of writers don’t believe in Writer’s Block, either, which is simply being unable to think about what to write next or how to proceed with the story. Malcolm’s advice? Just keep writing. “A lot of problems,” he says, “are resolved in the doing.”

And he continues, “You can always re-write. Make use of that extraordinary freedom.”

Extraordinary Freedom

EXTRAORDINARY FREEDOM was the phrase that jumped out at me. There is freedom in being able to re-write, to edit. We get to write and rewrite the story of our lives over and over again.

And I love that. It reminds me of this scene about editing from an old episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. In it, Raymond gives a toast at his brother, Robert’s wedding, a wedding in which everything goes comically awry. He explains editing better than anyone I’ve ever heard. You can watch the entire speech here:

Raymond gives a toast at his brother, Robert’s wedding. The theme: Editing. “Keep the good ones.”

I like the idea of applying the editing principle to my own life. Ask anyone who’s ever eaten anything from my kitchen. I mess things up all them time. You know how expensive food is these days! We can’t throw anything out. Sometimes the very best dishes are born from what started out as a veritable disaster. So I just keep stirring. Add a little of this. A little of that. Suddenly, something new and even better emerges. (Well, most of the time)

As I write this, four months have passed since the coffee shop closed. One of my favorite parts of owning the shop was sharing my own recipes. We launched a new menu last January, with our signature item being a homemade biscuit waffle—essentially scratch-made biscuit dough that we cooked on a waffle iron. The dough was tedious to make and involved grating pounds and pounds of frozen butter everyday. It was both labor intensive and messy. I found myself staying late to do it on more than one occasion. I remember racking my brain trying to figure out an easier way to make a homemade biscuit waffle that wouldn’t sacrifice flavor for convenience.

EDITING IS ABOUT SIMPLIFICATION

Then one day, at home, I was making my own biscuits using a recipe passed down from my grandmother to my mother to me. It was easy, shelf stable, and could be mixed up easily by anyone—no special skills required. The catch was that it included one very unconventional ingredient—an ingredient I didn’t share until I first had several people taste the waffles made with the new recipe. An ingredient that would be added along with the milk just before the dough hit the waffle iron. The new recipe was a hit! Slightly sweeter and fluffier than the original version, we immediately adopted it.

You see, there’s EXTRAORDINARY FREEDOM to re-write what isn’t working.

I used to put a lot of pressure on myself to get things right the first time. But why? That’s not how the world really works. New ideas are tested and evaluated, revised and simplified. The first draft is never the best draft. It’s complicated and messy. And that’s a good thing!

That waffle mix went from seven ingredients to four, and prep time went from about 10 minutes per batch to just two. Not only that, the new waffle also cost less to make. In the restaurant biz, that’s a big deal.

That’s the power of EDITING.

I want to believe that the principle at work in making book drafts and waffle recipes more palatable can surely be applied to other crises of concern.

Even the big questions, like “What should I do with my life?” or “How do I know I’m on the right track?” can be answered by applying the extraordinary freedom available to anyone who has the courage to EDIT along the way.

The story that’s being written can always be re-written. Do you agree?


What problem are you working on today? Take hold of your own extraordinary freedom. Then let me know how things are going or how I can help. I’d love to cheer you on!

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P.S. Hey, friend, I know you’re wondering about that secret ingredient. I’ll tell you—it was MAYONNAISE! Before you say, “Ew…gross…just remember mayo is basically just oil and eggs and when you add that plus milk to self rising flour and a little sugar, you get something pretty delicious!



Purposeful Parenting (Part 3:) Finding Meaning and Purpose in the Everyday

I used to have this app on my phone called Legacy Countdown. It was literally a countdown clock to remind me how much time I had left before my kids graduated high school. There’s nothing like knowing how little time remains to ensure you don’t waste it.

Deciding where to invest all those minutes and hours is hard, especially when you start without a plan. When my first daughter was just a baby, I enrolled her in Music Together, Mother’s Morning Out, and a Friday morning play group in our neighborhood.

By age three, we had added dance classes to the mix.

Then she started school, and I realized we needed an art enrichment class and after-school tutoring. In another year, we’d begin playing soccer, start a book club, and join Girl Scouts. I thought that more stuff gave our lives more meaning.

I was WRONG.

More stuff just made our lives more complicated.

I didn’t want my life to be just a countdown clock to the weekend or vacation or my kid’s graduation, so what did I do? I made a date with about a hundred other things.

Let’s be real— Isn’t it amazing how much you can accomplish when you’re in a pinch? Deadlines are my best friend, too. Deadlines hold my hand and encourage me to move with direction and purpose. And that’s what the Legacy App did for me. It put that hard deadline—the empty nest—front and center.

There’s a question we often ask ourselves when we reach a certain age, and it’s this: If I could go back in time, what advice would I give my younger self?

Maybe I would tell myself to slow down time. To enjoy the little things. To embrace the hard things. Maybe I would tell myself that all that extra “stuff” we did wouldn’t really matter in the long run.

But the reality is this: I can’t go back in time and tell my younger self anything.

What I can do, however, is set my future self up for success. My future self wants a life of meaning and purpose. My future self wants kids who are self sufficient, who harbor strong convictions, and who embrace life with their own visions of what the future holds. Looking forward gives us the ammunition we need to do something concrete and real.

Once I realized our family had a filled-up life that didn’t make us feel full at all, we started making some meaningful vows:

In the future:

  • We will not say yes simply because we have a fear of missing out.

  • We will not say yes because we’re afraid to be home alone with our kids.

  • We will not justify decisions to match our circumstances.

  • We will only add things to the family calendar that reflect our values.

We knew we wanted our kids to be creative problem solvers, effective mitigators for conflict resolution, and strong adults who could deal with disappointment. We wanted to encourage our kids to pursue the things they loved, and we also wanted to protect the time we had with them here at home.

Obviously, we had to say goodbye to some very good things. We had to make some hard choices.

One of the ways we did this by taking a season off. Knowing we would have time together in the near future sustained us when things were crazy, and everybody was eating dinner at a different time and no one was ever all in the car together. We knew it was for a season, and that made it bearable. For example, as much as we loved sports, we didn’t miss church to play them on Sundays. The down-time allowed us to catch our breath and explore what matters in the context of the most important relationships in our lives.

Another thing we did was empower our kids to choose for themselves those things that made them feel most alive. One summer, our older son obtained his private pilot’s license, and our younger son attended a summer camp for entrepreneurs. Our oldest daughter went on mission trips, and our youngest learned how to cook.

Over the years, I’ve been paying attention to the stories that make us who we are. Memories from childhood shape our worldview and influence our choices. In the future, I hope my kids will remember their past with a fondness that will carry them into their own preferred future. I hope they will feel equipped to find meaning not only in the work they choose to do but also in their relationships—both with people and with God. I hope they know that their past does not define them and that the future is filled with opportunity.

Mostly, I hope they enjoy today. It is a gift, and it is a responsibility. Steward it well, my friends.

Science shows that the secret to high performance isn’t our biological drive or our reward-and-punishment drive, but our third drive—our deep-seated desire to direct our own lives, to extend and expand our abilities, and to live a life of purpose
— Daniel Pink

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